Decades before Mitchell Gold became a famous furniture mogul, he considered ways to kill himself.

''I debated how to do it. An overdose of sleeping pills seemed somewhat painless,'' Gold writes in his new book, Crisis: 40 Stories Revealing the Personal, Social, and Religious Pain and Trauma of Growing Up Gay in America. ``I considered other tactics -- driving a car off a cliff, running in front of a train, jumping off a building -- but I knew I didn't have the guts.''

Gold, 57 and chairman of furniture company Mitchell Gold + Bob Williams, began to get back his self-esteem during college, with the help of a psychiatrist and support from his parents.

''We really didn't know much until he started growing up,'' said Gold's father Jack, 87, of Pompano Beach. ``He kept it all to himself.''

Mitchell Gold came from a middle-class, Reform Jewish household in Trenton, N.J. He didn't hear anything blatantly antigay at home or in synagogue.

But his parents occasionally joked about fagelas (Yiddish for ''queers'') and he recalls hearing adults at the local country club dismiss homosexuals as ``mentally unstable.''

''When you grew up hearing those things it wasn't very comforting for a kid who was discovering his sexual orientation,'' Gold said.

In 1989, Gold and his then-life partner Bob Williams co-founded their North Carolina furniture business with a $60,000 investment. Sales now exceed $100 million and the company has about 20 showrooms, including one that opened this year in Miami's Design District.

In 2005, Gold began Faith in America, a nonprofit aimed at ``the way religion is being used against gay people today.''

'It got to the point where I said, `This is really crazy. Somebody's got to speak up about it,' '' Williams said. ``The [gay] advocacy organizations did not get to the root of the problem. If you look at the people who are anti-gay, they are using their religious beliefs to justify it.''

BY THE BOOK

Gold, last year named to Out magazine's Top 50 Most Powerful Gay People in America list, convinced 40 of America's best-known gay activists and celebrities to write chapters for Crisis ($24, Greenleaf Book Group Press).

''It's not a book of beautiful coming-out stories,'' said Gold, who will donate Crisis profits to seven gay-youth advocacy groups. ``It is a book about people when they discover their same-sex orientations and the immediate crisis they feel in their lives and the years that follow.''

Among the authors of the first-person stories: The Rev. Gene Robinson, an Episcopal bishop from New Hampshire; ex-New Jersey Gov. James McGreevey; Candace Gingrich, younger sister of Newt; U.S. Reps. Barney Frank and Tammy Baldwin; and former pro baseball player Billy Bean of Miami Beach. Tennis star Martina Navratilova wrote the introduction.

One chapter has particular meaning to Gold. It is written by actor Richard Chamberlain -- Gold's first boyhood crush.

''I was like 11 or 12. I was starting to realize that when I saw Dr. Kildare, that was very exciting to me,'' Gold said about watching Chamberlain as the handsome TV doctor in the early 1960s. 'I wanted to be his friend. Then, I really wanted to be his friend. At one point I began to realize, `Why aren't I looking at the nurses on the show the same way?' ''

FROM THE PULPIT

Some of the book's contributors are gay ministers and preachers.

''What's very poignant in the book is raising the sin question. That's very, very excellent. We have to hit on that issue,'' said The Rev. Irene Monroe of Cambridge, Mass. ``[Crisis] definitely needs to be in the classrooms, on the college campuses. It needs to be [taught] in high schools under social studies.''

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